This month’s ABC book: “When Sophie Gets Angry: Really, Really Angry” by Molly Bang tells the story of a young girl who is searching for ways to cope with “big feelings” like anger.
Goals of lesson:
- To identify, acknowledge and express feelings in safe, positive, healthy ways.
- Stop and think and choose how to react when our emotions feel out of control.
- Be able to switch directions and make positive choices.
- Be in charge of feelings. Know you have control over how you respond to your strong emotions and the emotions of others.
- Use peaceful conflict resolution to resolve conflict and the steps to a genuine apology.
- Move forward with forgiveness.
To reinforce this lesson at home:
- Help your child identify and acknowledge how they are feeling with words. “You are frowning, is that puzzle frustrating? Can I help?” “You are using a loud, angry voice. Are you mad? Tell me about it.”
- As a caring adult, notice and acknowledge your own feelings. Role model the techniques you use to stay calm and in control. Share your successful strategies with youth.
- Help your child chose safe ways to calm themselves:
- Do physical activity. Put on music and dance away the anger. Go on a walk or bike ride.
- Take deep breaths.
- Count to 10. If still angry, count to 10 again and add deep breaths.
- Remove yourself from the situation. Take a break in a safe, quiet place.
- Use art materials such as markers, paint, or other art materials to express feelings.
When you “catch” kids modeling positive behaviors…
Notice, Name it, and Celebrate it!